Contrary to what you may believe, you can improve your personality.
The "personality" is the typical pattern of thinking, feeling, and behaviors that make a person unique.
When we say that someone has a "good personality" we mean that they are likeable, interesting and pleasant to be with.
Everyone wants to be attractive to others. Having a good personality helps - probably even more so than good looks.
While we can improve our looks to only a certain extent, we can work on improving the personality as much as we want.
Here are some ways in which we can accomplish this:
1. Be a better listener.
Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis was considered one of the most charming women in the world because she cultivated the skill of being an exceptional listener. She was known for the way she would look a person in the eyes, hang on their every word, and make them feel important. There is nothing more appealing than having someone listen to you intently making you feel like you're the only person in the world.
2. Read more and expand your interests.
The more you read and cultivate new interests, the more interesting you are to others. When you meet new people it gives you the opportunity to share what you know and to exchange your views with them.
3. Be a good conversationalist.
This relates to how much you read and know. Once you have much to contribute, learn how to talk about it with others. No one can read about or know everything, so it's refreshing to learn from others those things we don't have the time to about read ourselves. If you happen to be shy, join a group like Toastmasters that encourages you to talk about what you know.
4. Have an Opinion.
There is nothing more tiresome than trying to talk to someone who has no opinion on anything. A conversation has nowhere to go if you have nothing to expound on. If, however, you have an uncommon point of view or differing opinion, you are more interesting and stimulating to be in the company of (unless you're a know-it-all, of course). A unique outlook expands everyone's perspective.
5. Meet New People.
Make the effort to meet new people especially those unlike you. It not only exposes you to different cultures and alternative ways of doing things, it broadens your horizons.
6. Be yourself.
The next most tiresome thing after having no opinions is trying to be something you're not. Molding yourself in order to fit in, or be accepted, usually backfires. Since each of us is unique, expressing that uniqueness is what makes us interesting. Attempting to be a carbon copy of someone else not only falls flat, but reveals a lack of authenticity.
7. Have a positive outlook and attitude.
Who wants to be around people who are negative, complain a lot, or have nothing good to say? In fact, most of us run when we see them coming. Instead, be the kind of upbeat person who lights up a room with your energy when you enter it. Do it by looking for the best in people and things. Smile warmly, spread good cheer, and enliven others with your presence.
8. Be fun and see the humorous side of life.
Everyone enjoys the company of someone who makes them laugh or smile. Look for the humorous or quirky side in a situation - there always is one. When you are fun and lighthearted people are naturally attracted to you.
9. Be supportive of others.
Being supportive is probably the most endearing quality you can integrate into your personality. Just as you yourself welcome it, be the support for others when they need it. We all love a cheerleader in our corner; someone who is encouraging, believes in us and helps pick us up when we're down.
10. Have Integrity and treat people with respect.
Being honest and true to your word will bring you the admiration, respect and gratitude of others. Nothing improves a person's personality more than integrity and respect - respect for others, as well as respect for yourself.
We humans have the power and ability to shape our personalities however we wish. When we develop ourselves to be all that we can be, we contribute to our own, as well as, to the happiness of others.
All I need is my brains, my eyes and my personality, for better or for worse. William Albert Allard
Personality is only ripe when a man has made the truth his own.
If you have anything really valuable to contribute to the world it will come through the expression of your own personality, that single spark of divinity that sets you off and makes you different from every other living creature.
Personality has power to uplift, power to depress, power to curse, and power to bless. Paul Harris
You have a nice personality, but not for a human being.
Man's main task in life is to give birth to himself, to become what he potentially is. The most important product of his effort is his own personality. Erich Fromm
Don't try to take on a new personality; it doesn't work.
Richard M. Nixon
Personality is the glitter that sends your little gleam across the footlights and the orchestra pit into that big black space where the audience is.
Show me an actress who isn't a personality and I'll show you a woman who isn't a star. Katherine Hepburn
Personality is to a man what perfume is to a flower.
The most important function of education at any level is to develop the personality of the individual and the significance of his life to himself and to others. Grayson Kirk
The core of my personality consists of many selves.
While one should always study the method of a great artist, one should never imitate his manner. The manner of an artist is essentially individual, the method of an artist is absolutely universal. The first personality, which no one should copy. Oscar Wilde
What we call personality or character is a highly complex product of a long integrative process, a process which may go wrong and may be largely undone at any stage. William McDougall
The "self-image" is the key to human personality and human behavior. Change the self image and you change the personality and the behavior.
The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances. If there is any reaction, both are transformed.